28 Ways To Be Your Own Valentine
Updated: Feb 2, 2022
This month, I want you to be your own Valentine. To give yourself the love and adoration you so easily give to others. Let’s celebrate you.
Here are 28 ways over the next 28 days that you can show yourself some love. Commit to one or do them all, or even invite a friend to do it with you if you want to share the love. Massive changes start with subtle shifts and these simple steps might just be the beginning of something amazing for you:
❤️ Wake up with your alarm and resist the urge to snooze. It’s better for your physical health, it builds trust with yourself and it’s an empowering way to start your day. You will never regret this choice.
❤️ End each day by writing down three things you are proud of achieving that day. Let’s not overthink this or put pressure on yourself to change the world. It can be the fact that you got out of bed that morning, brushed your teeth, and got dressed.
❤️ Write down ten things you love about yourself. Keep going if you feel inspired. You are pretty awesome.
❤️ Start your day by looking at yourself in the mirror and saying something encouraging. I call this my morning mirror mantras and I do this DAILY. My favorite is, “You got this, and I’ve got you.” It’s a reminder that I am always on my own team, and I always have my own back. I am also a HUGE Mel Robbins fan and give myself a high-five in the mirror. I am literally my own cheerleader in that moment and the momentum carries me through my day!
❤️ Spend some time in nature.
❤️ Have a dance party in your kitchen and don’t you dare judge a single one of those amazing moves of yours!
❤️ Take a social media break. Maybe it’s a week, maybe it’s a day, maybe it’s an hour. Just be intentional about it and see what you can create during that time when you are actively NOT consuming social.
❤️ Pay attention to your self-talk. Ever catch yourself saying, “That was so stupid” or “I shouldn’t have done that” or “I am a terrible mother” in your head or under your breath? Would you ever say that to someone ELSE you love? Of course not! Speak kindly to yourself – words matter, even if they are never said aloud.
❤️ Make a bucket list! Be completely unrealistic about it. Dream with childlike abandon and fill the page. Remember what it was like to dream without limitation. Bonus points if you plan to start ticking one or more off the list.
❤️ Unfollow someone on social media that no longer brings you joy. Do this FOR YOU, not in spite of them.
❤️ Set a goal. Write it down and make it real. Take massive action to achieve it and cheer yourself on every step of the way.
❤️ Dress up for no reason other than wanting to feel good.
❤️ Allow yourself to fail at something. Like utterly and completely fail. And learn from it versus judging yourself for it.
❤️ Practice intentional journaling. Often journaling can focus on the negative, which exacerbates negative thoughts and negative self-talk. Our brains are wired to keep us safe and alive, so it’s always looking for potential danger. You need to disrupt this default thinking by offering your brain a different perspective, like everything you have to be grateful for or something you are proud of today. Need some inspo? Email me at email@example.com and I will share my favorite journal prompts.
❤️ Embrace your emotions. All of them. I know, I know…I just told you to focus on the positive! That does not mean to resist feeling all the other emotions that come with being a human. In fact, we only know how wonderful happiness feels because we have experienced sadness. We only know confidence because we have felt self-doubt. Feel it all.
❤️ Make yourself your favorite meal (or order it in).
❤️ Write your childhood self a letter. We all have an age or a stage where perhaps we would’ve done things differently or needed some love, encouragement, or support that we didn’t have. Offer it to her now through a letter. Tell her it will be ok. Tell her you love her. Tell her you forgive her for the choices she made. Tell her that you believe in her.
❤️ Write a letter from your future self. The one who has lived the bucket list – who has achieved a dream of yours. What advice would she give you?
❤️ Tell someone you love that you love them.
❤️ Plan something that you can look forward to. Maybe it’s a solo trip (check out bysaltandsun.com or @bysaltandsun on IG if this speaks to you), a date night, or a walk with girlfriends. Get something on your calendar that excites you!
❤️ Look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself a compliment. Mean it.
❤️ Honor your calendar. This is such a simple way to build trust with yourself. Do what you say you’re going to do when you say you’re going to do it. If you want to move something, then love your reason for doing it and make sure it aligns with your needs versus people pleasing.
❤️ Make a list of everything you’ve accomplished in your life. Get specific. You will be amazed at how amazing you are!!
❤️ Forgive someone who wronged you. Write them a letter even if you have no intention of sending it. This is not for them. It’s for you. Love feels better than hate.
❤️ Carve out designated YOU time on your calendar. Take an hour, take fifteen minutes but take some time for you. Make it a daily priority.
❤️ Tackle a project you have been putting off. Reclaim that emotional and mental real estate by getting it off your plate.
❤️ Rewrite a moment from your past that causes you pain. Look at it from a new perspective. What was the lesson you learned from this experience? How are you better because of it? How can you embrace it as a part of your story? Reach out if you need help with this one, friend.
❤️ Remind yourself daily that you are worthy of love. And that love begins with you.